Article by Fiora Touliatou
At the beginning of every year, most people are enthusiastic and setting their intentions with a list of new years resolutions, most common ones being related to fitness and diet. But somehow, this enthusiasm fades away and the resolutions are abandoned by mid-February. Why is this happening and how can we change it to achieve our goals and get the results we are dreaming of?
The quick answer to this is that we need to make the necessary changes in our lives. Although the first step is to write down our resolutions, this doesn’t mean our goals will automatically manifest into reality if we don’t work towards them. Real change starts from within and self-responsibility is essential. In brief, we need to change our mindset, our habits, and be consistent with our efforts and work towards our goals. Changing our mindset is number one on the list of success. The real catalyst to making effective changes in life is acquiring a growth mindset as opposed to the limited mindset that keep us in a circle of procrastination and self-pity. Once we acquire this, we have a powerful tool to achieve anything we put our mind into.
Growth mindset vs limited mindset
Growth mindset looks like this:
- Learning new skills and acquiring new knowledge.
- I can achieve anything I want.
- There are no failures, only learning experiences.
- When one way is not working, find another way.
- Difficulties are catalysts that challenge us to help us grow.
- Giving up is not an option, reset, pivot and keep trying is the only option.
- Feedback is constructive and helps me grow and improve.
- A positive attitude and constant effort determine the result.
The opposite of this is the limited mindset which is based on limiting beliefs, having a victim-mentality and blaming external factors for our failures. It basically looks like this:
- I don’t have time or want to learn new skills, I want fast and effortless results.
- I can either be excellent in something or not good at all.
- My abilities are predetermined by my genes, my age, my race, my size, my education.
- Failure proves to me that I am not good at something and I should give up.
- Feedback is criticism and feels uncomfortable.
- I don’t like getting out of my comfort zone.
How to acquire a growth mindset
Acquiring a growth mindset is a totally new skill on its own and it can be applied to anything you want to achieve. The first step to having a growth mindset is to have the will and enthusiasm to change. And afterwards working with different techniques such as:
- visualisation,
- positive affirmations,
- reading positive news/information,
- following motivational speakers or social media pages,
- being surrounded by positive and encouraging people.
However, for more integrated and long-lasting results, having a life coach is essential to guide you to make the changes you desire. Life coaching can help one discover their inner power and inspire them to new ways of attracting the life they want.
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